The Impact of Losing concentration

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4 Easy Ways to Deal with Stress

‘I keep losing focus’, complains Noreen. ‘I wish I could concentrate better’, says Abdul.  Do you hear yourself sometimes saying this?   There are so many things to think about that you just cannot seem to be able to concentrate properly, any more.

Concentration is the ability to focus upon one thing at a time.  This is not necessarily an easy skill to develop and retain as life, for all of us, has so many disruptions.

Multitasking:  Some of us pride ourselves on being able to do more than one thing at a time but the chances are that instead of doing one task really well, we actually manage to do a number of tasks not so well. The reason being that trying to do too much contemporaneously usually leads to poor performance or mediocre outcomes.

Distraction and Boredom:  You cannot concentrate properly until you stop yourself from being distracted!  Now this might seem very obvious but we can fail to take the requisite action to either remove the distraction from us or to remove ourselves away from the distraction. Continue reading

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Building Virtual Relationships

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I am a firm believer in the value of face-to-face communication. However, over the past few weeks, I have been impressed by a story of hope and support – that has resulted from an on-line relationship.

A tragic life change

Johan is a handsome, 24 year-old male client of mine who was a landscape gardener.  He was referred to me by his doctor after a serious car accident that has left him unable to walk and only able to move about in a wheelchair.  The challenges ahead of him are great.  He has had to give up his work, which has always been the love of his life.

For some years, Johan has been an avid blogger on social media and now has thousands of followers.  His blog has always provided a creative outlet for him after a day of being out in the open.  He has also written about his accident: how it has changed his life and how he can never go back into his much loved profession.  But he has blogged about his experience in a positive way; how he has been determined to overcome his disability, knowing that there were others far worse off than he.  Despite having frustrating days, Johan understands that he faces the same issues as others who have been permanently injured and this sense of shared identity has been crucial in promoting strong on-line relationships.

His many readers have developed a strong empathy with Johan and when his mother recently wanted to raise funds for an electric wheelchair, she made contact, via his blog, to his existing followers.  Within days, not only was the money raised for the wheelchair but also offers of job opportunities also came. Continue reading

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Are you going through a Mid-life Crisis?

 

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4 Easy Ways to Deal with Stress

Last week, it was reported in the international media that Google’s Main Board Finance Director, 52 year old, CFO Patrick Pichette had announced that he will be giving up his multi-million dollar job in California to spend more time with his family and maybe to go back-packing around the world.

So was this a mid-life-crisis action taken on the spur of the moment or a carefully considered decision made after examining all the priorities, in conjunction with his immediate family and friends?  Was it, possibly, a moment when he saw his world before his eyes and thought of his ‘bucket list’ with all those things not yet experienced, or completed, and then thought that he might be going to run out of time with all those hopes and dreams unfulfilled?

When does it start?

Midlife crisis can happen when someone suddenly thinks they have reached a point halfway through their life and for many, it can come as a complete surprise as they had thought that life was just beginning. They can start to develop anxieties that appear to indicate that everything is going backwards – or at least not moving forwards – both in their career and personal life, and can experience mood-swings or possibly bouts of self-doubt and even depression.

This crisis usually occurs, if at all, between the ages of 35 and 50, and can sometimes last for maybe five or even ten years. The term mid-life crisis was first coined in 1965 where early analysis suggested that it could happen anywhere between the ages of 40 and 60, but it is now shown to start much earlier.

Let us look at some of the signs that could indicate whether or not you could be heading for, or currently experiencing, your own mid-life crisis. Continue reading

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Are you an introvert?

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Do you sometimes get anxious when speaking to a new client?  Would you rather work alone and not in a team?  Would you often prefer to stay at home, than attend an after work party organised by your department?

If you can answer these questions with a ‘yes’, then you are probably an introvert.  But, before you start thinking that this is a negative trait, let’s look at some of the most influential people of our time who prove that you don’t have to be the loudest voice in the room to be heard.

Introverts commonly assume that they must conform to the extrovert mould in order to be successful, however, Bill Gates, Microsoft’s founder and philanthropist, is reported to have strong introvert traits but still develop his passions, successfully. He said, ‘I think introverts can do quite well.  If you’re clever, you can learn to get the benefits of being an introvert, which might be, say, being willing to go off for a few days and think about a tough problem, read everything you can, push yourself very hard to think out on the edge of that area.’

Being elected president of the United States and Commander-in-Chief of the armed forces would seems to be an introvert’s worst nightmare.  But even though President Obama has caught criticism for his aloof personality, he has managed to leverage an introvert’s natural capacity for thoughtful communication. Continue reading

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Taking Gratitude into 2015

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4 Easy Ways to Deal with Stress

Time flies by so fast that it is difficult to realise that we are about to say ‘Goodbye!’ to 2014 and ‘Hello!’ to the New Year.  You probably have many things to be thankful for over the last twelve months but, like the rest of us, you have also had your challenges.

Maybe your ‘life script’ did not turn out as you would have liked – but then life often throws up unexpected challenges to be overcome, such as health issues or relationship problems.  That is the order of our lives and with a new year ahead of us, it is worth remembering to be grateful for what we actually do have – our family, our friends, our work and all those special moments in our lives.

Of course, it is very easy to feel sorry for ourselves when things go wrong.  Maybe you didn’t get that promotion you wanted or you lost a personal relationship.  Your health may have deteriorated and such issues are often tough calls to handle particularly if they come together.

But that doesn’t really help us to move on.  In order to do that, we need to take full responsibility for what is in, and what is out, of our control.  There is no point in wasting time, energy or even money on that over which you have no control.  However, there is a point in accepting a particular situation as it stands and seeing how you can amend your life script to take account of it.  Your life-script may not be within your own control, but the attitude that you exhibit in your approach to situations that you encounter, is within your determination and can positively influence outcomes in your favour. Continue reading

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Does being a Perfectionist Cause you Stress?

 

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4 Easy Ways to Deal with Stress

“That’s perfect Anita– well done.  Have a gold star!”  Remember those nostalgic days when you were in school and you were told to chase those straight A’s?  How quickly a perfectionist learns to live by the words ‘I’m so pleased, this term I was top of my class’ and to enjoy the thrill of impressing others – and themselves – at the same time.  A perfectionist would cry if they only managed a B+ or ended up only in second place.  Some children hated school, but the chances are that the perfectionist child loved it as his, or her, success was quantifiable by the results of exams, assignments and  teacher feedback —particularly when they made the grade.  The maxim of ‘work hard and succeed’ worked like a dream for them.

However, those gold stars can sometimes cause a lifetime of frustration and personal dissatisfaction.  In the adult world, success is measured differently and, not being structured in the same way as in school, there may well be times when you will miss the ‘good old school days’ where an A+ was all that to which you aspired.

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Being a Loner in the Workplace

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No two people are the same and that is why, within your work-teams, there will be those with whom you get on easily and then those with whom it is often a challenge to communicate.  That is just a fact of life.

Let us look at Johan who manages a team of talented marketing professionals who need to collaborate, daily, on different projects. One of his team is Amelia who is a highly proficient, technically- skilled team-member but who likes to work alone and just get on with the job in hand.  But, she is not a good communicator and in many ways is a loner.  That is her style and personality which may not be a problem unless she is part of a team in which inter-communication is usually essential. We already know that any chain is only as strong as its weakest link and, in this case, Amelia is the link that weakens the chain because she often fails to attend meetings on time and is inefficient in communicating information to her team members, resulting in unacceptable delays and missed deadlines.

This leaves, Johan, the team manager, in a difficult situation.  With Amelia, he has a very talented, intelligent individual who is highly productive when they work alone but has very little interest in working with others.  He values her input but is acutely aware that her inability to communicate, damages the effectiveness of the team and frequently causes friction within the team.

So what can Johan do to keep Amelia in post yet at the same time, ensure that she is an integral part of the team? Continue reading

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Help to de stress me! My email is taking over my life!

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4 Easy Ways to Deal with Stress

‘As soon as I clear my inbox, a new batch arrives – consequently I spend my time reacting to every new message but not being proactive’.

Does this sound familiar?  Our lives are circumscribed around the Blackberry, iPhone, iPad, Android, or any device where one can get online: consequently we spend our waking hours reading, replying, copying and deleting.  Is any real work ever done and is this plethora of email really necessary?

However, email is here to stay: so here are my 5 top tips to help you manage it.

  1. Bin it!

Utilise your inbox for actions that you need to take: then get rid of the rest. Old emails just take up space.

  1. Get sorted!

After actioning your emails, put them in named folders for quick access. Tidy email folders are a lot easier to handle when you open your in-box. Continue reading

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Using your time effectively if unemployed

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Jane is a client of mine but is currently between jobs i.e. temporarily unemployed.   Her friends tell her that she is lucky to have time on her hands – however, she does not see it that way.  She wakes up in the morning with no reason to get out of bed.    Her husband, Gerry, gets ready to go to work, as usual, by 7.15 whilst she lies in bed thinking about what she can do to fill her day.

This is a time of great challenge for Jane.  The very word ‘unemployed’ fills her with anxiety.  She understands that she was made redundant because of re-organisation within the firm and that it was not a reflection upon her work.  Her boss was very understanding and said he would give her a good reference but they just had to ‘let her go’.

So, from one moment of being Jane Reese, HR Assistant, she became Jane Reese – unemployed!  She didn’t think it would matter to her.  She would catch up on emails, rewrite her CV, go for interviews and get another job.  It all seemed rather simple, initially.  It was Summer time so she would also use the period to recharge her batteries.  But then Summer came to an end.  She had psyched herself up for countless job interviews but nothing had materialised.  She thought she would certainly have found a new position by then, but she hadn’t.  Jane tried hard to keep positive but this was becoming harder as she received one refusal after another.  So what to do?  She knew she had to take some action to keep herself active, positive, alert and confident.

So, she came to seek my advice and we looked at various options for her: Continue reading

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Working with a boss you don’t like!

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‘I really dislike my new boss!’ Mena commented to me in her office the other day.  So what should you do if you really don’t get on with your immediate manager?

One alternative might be to ask for a transfer to another department but that is not always possible and, in any event, you could lose seniority and slow down your career progression.

There is no question that in a situation in which you experience a personality clash with your boss, it is recommended that you try every possible strategy to resolve the situation to make it workable.  Always remember that changing jobs can take you to another company in which there may be problems with your new boss!  Then what? Continue reading

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