Are you going through a Mid-life Crisis?

 

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4 Easy Ways to Deal with Stress

Last week, it was reported in the international media that Google’s Main Board Finance Director, 52 year old, CFO Patrick Pichette had announced that he will be giving up his multi-million dollar job in California to spend more time with his family and maybe to go back-packing around the world.

So was this a mid-life-crisis action taken on the spur of the moment or a carefully considered decision made after examining all the priorities, in conjunction with his immediate family and friends?  Was it, possibly, a moment when he saw his world before his eyes and thought of his ‘bucket list’ with all those things not yet experienced, or completed, and then thought that he might be going to run out of time with all those hopes and dreams unfulfilled?

When does it start?

Midlife crisis can happen when someone suddenly thinks they have reached a point halfway through their life and for many, it can come as a complete surprise as they had thought that life was just beginning. They can start to develop anxieties that appear to indicate that everything is going backwards – or at least not moving forwards – both in their career and personal life, and can experience mood-swings or possibly bouts of self-doubt and even depression.

This crisis usually occurs, if at all, between the ages of 35 and 50, and can sometimes last for maybe five or even ten years. The term mid-life crisis was first coined in 1965 where early analysis suggested that it could happen anywhere between the ages of 40 and 60, but it is now shown to start much earlier.

Let us look at some of the signs that could indicate whether or not you could be heading for, or currently experiencing, your own mid-life crisis. Continue reading

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Crisis: It could happen to you!

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4 Easy Ways to Deal with Stress

If you need to respond quickly to a negative, corporate situation that has taken place and impacted your organisation, there are many techniques and procedures available in order to manage it and to successfully communicate with all parties concerned.

Sending out a Press Release

Consideration should be given to sending out a Press Release in order to inform the media together with your shareholders or stakeholders, of the current situation whilst simultaneously delivering a very clear message that demonstrates your confidence in dealing with the situation.  How you respond in the first 24 hours may be vital to maintaining production and also morale both within the business and externally.  The confidence of both customers and suppliers can very easily be permanently lost overnight – in the event that you fail to manage such a situation professionally. Time here is of the essence! Continue reading

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4 Proven Steps to Beat Your Stress!

Last week, I received a letter from Claudia, a 41 year old female doctor working in an Accident & Emergency department in a central London hospital.

“Dear Carole, I feel trapped in a mundane existence.  I feel that I am stuck; my life is out of control and I am going nowhere!  When I first started out, I believed that a better life was possible.  I dreamed of achieving great things and living a life full of value and purpose.  I wanted to become a great doctor and make a difference to society – there was nothing more important to me.  However, over the years, the demands and frustrations of the job have crushed my dreams and I have now settled for an unremarkable existence, having lost my vision for the future.  Can you help me to get off this endless treadmill onto a new, more rewarding path?” Continue reading

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Being a Loner in the Workplace

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4 Easy Ways to Deal with Stress

No two people are the same and that is why, within your work-teams, there will be those with whom you get on easily and then those with whom it is often a challenge to communicate.  That is just a fact of life.

Let us look at Johan who manages a team of talented marketing professionals who need to collaborate, daily, on different projects. One of his team is Amelia who is a highly proficient, technically- skilled team-member but who likes to work alone and just get on with the job in hand.  But, she is not a good communicator and in many ways is a loner.  That is her style and personality which may not be a problem unless she is part of a team in which inter-communication is usually essential. We already know that any chain is only as strong as its weakest link and, in this case, Amelia is the link that weakens the chain because she often fails to attend meetings on time and is inefficient in communicating information to her team members, resulting in unacceptable delays and missed deadlines.

This leaves, Johan, the team manager, in a difficult situation.  With Amelia, he has a very talented, intelligent individual who is highly productive when they work alone but has very little interest in working with others.  He values her input but is acutely aware that her inability to communicate, damages the effectiveness of the team and frequently causes friction within the team.

So what can Johan do to keep Amelia in post yet at the same time, ensure that she is an integral part of the team? Continue reading

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Help to de stress me! My email is taking over my life!

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4 Easy Ways to Deal with Stress

‘As soon as I clear my inbox, a new batch arrives – consequently I spend my time reacting to every new message but not being proactive’.

Does this sound familiar?  Our lives are circumscribed around the Blackberry, iPhone, iPad, Android, or any device where one can get online: consequently we spend our waking hours reading, replying, copying and deleting.  Is any real work ever done and is this plethora of email really necessary?

However, email is here to stay: so here are my 5 top tips to help you manage it.

  1. Bin it!

Utilise your inbox for actions that you need to take: then get rid of the rest. Old emails just take up space.

  1. Get sorted!

After actioning your emails, put them in named folders for quick access. Tidy email folders are a lot easier to handle when you open your in-box. Continue reading

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Holidays without Stress

Unrealistic demands and deadlines, work overloads, poor communication, out-of-date equipment and/or staff shortages lead to pressure that often turns into stress.  However, it’s not usually connected with holidays – or is it?

'Show Stress Who's Boss!' provides tools and strategies that will show you how to deawl with stress.

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In reality, holidays and your everyday work are interconnected and depending whether your holiday break is good, or bad, will impact on how well you are able to manage pressure at your work, i.e. to be able to prevent normally stimulating pressure from turning into harmful stress that can cause mental and physical damage.  In this age of short deadlines and long hours, you need to compensate by taking frequent breaks as an essential re-charging tactic, and when you do so, it’s really important to switch-off completely and not be tempted to check your email every minute!  I certainly think that emailing has become an addiction instead of a communication tool. However, the fact remains that your mind needs that break as well as your body. Continue reading

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Using your time effectively if unemployed

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4 Easy Ways to Deal with Stress

Jane is a client of mine but is currently between jobs i.e. temporarily unemployed.   Her friends tell her that she is lucky to have time on her hands – however, she does not see it that way.  She wakes up in the morning with no reason to get out of bed.    Her husband, Gerry, gets ready to go to work, as usual, by 7.15 whilst she lies in bed thinking about what she can do to fill her day.

This is a time of great challenge for Jane.  The very word ‘unemployed’ fills her with anxiety.  She understands that she was made redundant because of re-organisation within the firm and that it was not a reflection upon her work.  Her boss was very understanding and said he would give her a good reference but they just had to ‘let her go’.

So, from one moment of being Jane Reese, HR Assistant, she became Jane Reese – unemployed!  She didn’t think it would matter to her.  She would catch up on emails, rewrite her CV, go for interviews and get another job.  It all seemed rather simple, initially.  It was Summer time so she would also use the period to recharge her batteries.  But then Summer came to an end.  She had psyched herself up for countless job interviews but nothing had materialised.  She thought she would certainly have found a new position by then, but she hadn’t.  Jane tried hard to keep positive but this was becoming harder as she received one refusal after another.  So what to do?  She knew she had to take some action to keep herself active, positive, alert and confident.

So, she came to seek my advice and we looked at various options for her: Continue reading

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Don’t Get Stressed out Because of Sloppy Work

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The Essential Guide to Managing Stress

I just fired one of my Section Leaders!’ Abdul, the recently appointed SVP of a construction company, in Abu Dhabi, told me last week during my monthly coaching phone call. ‘And what were your reasons?’ I asked.  ‘He was making repeated work errors that were unacceptable’.  I couldn’t manage the situation any longer as he was becoming a liability to the whole department,’ he replied. I listened attentively as he continued, ‘Carole, do you think I did the right thing?’

Not an easy one to answer!  We all know how important it is to take remedial action when we see work that is unacceptable but it is not always simple for some individuals to change.    Having operated personally in a certain way for years, it is often too difficult for them to change their mindset and way of working.  However, such a situation may need to change dramatically when a new senior executive arrives.

A new SVP can mean that you are faced with an immediate challenge.  Either raise your game immediately or accept the fact that you may have to find alternative employment with another company or organisation.  Neither of these are easy choices but they are ones that need to be addressed. Continue reading

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Business Tips: Do You Have the Ability to ‘Let Go’

4 Easy Steps to Beat Your Stres

The Essential Guide to Managing Stress

Before I lose the interest of my male readers, I should warn you I am going to talk about women’s handbags and there is a good business reason for me to do so.  So please bear with me!

I read in the press the other day that the high-end, handbag retailer, Mulberry Ltd, has been forced to slash prices on its luxury handbags after admitting that its customers cannot afford them.  The UK-based company has announced it is adjusting its strategy.  As well as reducing the price of its cheapest bags from about $900 by around 15%, Mulberry said it would also be offering more products within this range.  Mulberry’s interim chairman has quickly insisted that the quality of the handbags would not be affected by the price cuts and I believe him because if this were to be the case, Mulberry would cheapen its brand and lose its hard-won customer base.

The reason why I was interested to read this [was not because I am a Mulberry bag owner, which I am] but because Mulberry’s business strategy has been revisited in order to adapt to changed market conditions. Continue reading

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Stressed Out and Firefighting – again!

4 Easy Steps to Beat Your Stres

The Essential Guide to Managing Stress

As a manager, do you regard yourself as acting reactively or proactively, the majority of the time?  Do you pride yourself on your ‘firefighting skills’ or your planning expertise?

Reactive management refers to situations for which you cannot, (or fail to), plan and which then require you to enter into reactive mode in order to deal with them.  This usually means that situations arise that you failed to anticipate and which then need ‘firefighting’ to resolve the issues that have arisen.  Of course, you may well have become extremely good at doing this.  However, have you have ever thought how efficient you really are at such times?  You may have convinced yourself that you work better under stress.  You may need the ‘adrenaline rush’ to get you moving and you love working late into the early hours of the morning in order to meet a deadline. However, have you considered the knock-on effect to other people around you who will be also be affected? Continue reading

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