Are you going through a Mid-life Crisis?

 

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4 Easy Ways to Deal with Stress

Last week, it was reported in the international media that Google’s Main Board Finance Director, 52 year old, CFO Patrick Pichette had announced that he will be giving up his multi-million dollar job in California to spend more time with his family and maybe to go back-packing around the world.

So was this a mid-life-crisis action taken on the spur of the moment or a carefully considered decision made after examining all the priorities, in conjunction with his immediate family and friends?  Was it, possibly, a moment when he saw his world before his eyes and thought of his ‘bucket list’ with all those things not yet experienced, or completed, and then thought that he might be going to run out of time with all those hopes and dreams unfulfilled?

When does it start?

Midlife crisis can happen when someone suddenly thinks they have reached a point halfway through their life and for many, it can come as a complete surprise as they had thought that life was just beginning. They can start to develop anxieties that appear to indicate that everything is going backwards – or at least not moving forwards – both in their career and personal life, and can experience mood-swings or possibly bouts of self-doubt and even depression.

This crisis usually occurs, if at all, between the ages of 35 and 50, and can sometimes last for maybe five or even ten years. The term mid-life crisis was first coined in 1965 where early analysis suggested that it could happen anywhere between the ages of 40 and 60, but it is now shown to start much earlier.

Let us look at some of the signs that could indicate whether or not you could be heading for, or currently experiencing, your own mid-life crisis. Continue reading

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Does being a Perfectionist Cause you Stress?

 

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4 Easy Ways to Deal with Stress

“That’s perfect Anita– well done.  Have a gold star!”  Remember those nostalgic days when you were in school and you were told to chase those straight A’s?  How quickly a perfectionist learns to live by the words ‘I’m so pleased, this term I was top of my class’ and to enjoy the thrill of impressing others – and themselves – at the same time.  A perfectionist would cry if they only managed a B+ or ended up only in second place.  Some children hated school, but the chances are that the perfectionist child loved it as his, or her, success was quantifiable by the results of exams, assignments and  teacher feedback —particularly when they made the grade.  The maxim of ‘work hard and succeed’ worked like a dream for them.

However, those gold stars can sometimes cause a lifetime of frustration and personal dissatisfaction.  In the adult world, success is measured differently and, not being structured in the same way as in school, there may well be times when you will miss the ‘good old school days’ where an A+ was all that to which you aspired.

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De-stress: Industry’s role in helping the 60+

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One of my clients is a former WW2 soldier, now 90 years old.  He talks about the Normandy landings in France during the Second World War and can still hear the explosions and feel the fear of that day, 70 years ago.  However, the battle that he faces now is not post-traumatic stress but loneliness.

Loneliness is not the same as being alone.  Most of us will choose to be alone, at times.  But loneliness is being alone not by choice but by circumstance and that feeling of isolation can be devastating.

Older people, who may have suffered a bereavement are more vulnerable to feeling isolated, particularly for the first months or even years after the event – and their loss can have an adverse effect on both mental and physical health. Continue reading

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Business Tips: Do You Have the Ability to ‘Let Go’

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Before I lose the interest of my male readers, I should warn you I am going to talk about women’s handbags and there is a good business reason for me to do so.  So please bear with me!

I read in the press the other day that the high-end, handbag retailer, Mulberry Ltd, has been forced to slash prices on its luxury handbags after admitting that its customers cannot afford them.  The UK-based company has announced it is adjusting its strategy.  As well as reducing the price of its cheapest bags from about $900 by around 15%, Mulberry said it would also be offering more products within this range.  Mulberry’s interim chairman has quickly insisted that the quality of the handbags would not be affected by the price cuts and I believe him because if this were to be the case, Mulberry would cheapen its brand and lose its hard-won customer base.

The reason why I was interested to read this [was not because I am a Mulberry bag owner, which I am] but because Mulberry’s business strategy has been revisited in order to adapt to changed market conditions. Continue reading

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‘Have you got a minute?’ syndrome

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4 Easy Ways to Deal with Stress

This is the moment you dread.  It is 3 p.m. and you have to finish a report before you leave the office.  Although it is a tight schedule, you know you can just about manage it.  But then, your schedule gets binned as your boss arrives next to your desk and says ‘Gavin, have you got a minute?’  You look at your screen.  You look at him.  He is waiting for a reply and what he is really asking is, ‘Are you doing something that is more important than me’.  You look up and say, ‘Yes, of course’ as he hands you a file for comment by tomorrow morning – which means  yet another rushed meal, a late night and too little sleep. Continue reading

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Stressed Out and Firefighting – again!

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As a manager, do you regard yourself as acting reactively or proactively, the majority of the time?  Do you pride yourself on your ‘firefighting skills’ or your planning expertise?

Reactive management refers to situations for which you cannot, (or fail to), plan and which then require you to enter into reactive mode in order to deal with them.  This usually means that situations arise that you failed to anticipate and which then need ‘firefighting’ to resolve the issues that have arisen.  Of course, you may well have become extremely good at doing this.  However, have you have ever thought how efficient you really are at such times?  You may have convinced yourself that you work better under stress.  You may need the ‘adrenaline rush’ to get you moving and you love working late into the early hours of the morning in order to meet a deadline. However, have you considered the knock-on effect to other people around you who will be also be affected? Continue reading

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Business Relationships

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4 Easy Ways to Deal with Stress

Is there someone in your office with whom you find it challenging to deal? Is your life at work being harmed by a difficult relationship? That difficulty could be with a colleague, a business partner, a manager, director, customer or supplier. You may be spending time at night worrying about it; thinking about it constantly and/or discussing it with colleagues, husband or wife.

It is often said that we cannot choose our family and therefore need to learn how to manage our relationships with them – and the same applies to those at work. If a particular individual is not to our personal liking – for any reason – then because we do not have the luxury of walking away, we need to find a basis upon which to communicate. We all have a job to do and we need to be able to communicate well with everyone in our team. That still applies even if you are a sole practitioner, as you will need to communicate politely with clients/ customers, who you may not like, for otherwise you will have no business! Continue reading

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Retirement and the ‘Knowledge Drain’

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Many of you may look forward to your retirement with great enthusiasm. You can start to play golf, join a bridge group, travel the world or just stay in bed each morning until 10 am! For those of you who can afford to do so, then your dream may well become reality. However, for others, retirement may prove more of a challenge as there is more time to fill each day.

For maybe 40 years, you have been used to the structure of the workplace, and its comradeship. It is where you have spent the best part of each day, for decades. Now, suddenly, you have lost not only your job status and salary but also your focus, raison d’etre and the fellowship of your colleagues at work.

People start to view you in a different way and probably you define yourself differently because your changed status means that your place in society has now altered.

As for the company or organisation, whenever a long-serving, experienced employee retires, it means skills and expertise that have been acquired over many years are allowed to ‘walk out of the door’. Sadly, many employers will just let this happen and the ‘knowledge drain’ becomes commonplace. Instead, what could occur is that companies learn to handle the retirement of skilled staff using a process that facilitates a transfer of knowledge from ‘old’ to ‘young’ in order not to lose skills and knowledge that have been built-up over very many years. Continue reading

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Stressed? Are you addicted to technology?

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Do you find yourself waking up at 3 am to check your email or Facebook account? Is your addiction to the internet having a negative effect on your relationships? Do you experience withdrawal symptoms when not on-line?

If so, then you are probably experiencing technology addiction. This occurs when people cross an invisible boundary and their texting, emailing, Twitter and Facebook usage becomes unhealthy.

Last week, I was interested to read a research study carried out by the Henley School of Business which showed that it was not the young or unemployed who had time on their hands who were technology addicted but, contrary to what I would have expected, it was in fact those who worked hardest who were most at risk. Working excessively is the ‘strongest predictor’ of technology addiction. Dr Cristina Quinones-Garcia of Northampton Business School who co-wrote the study said ‘Internet supports all areas of human interaction. However, the omnipresence of this phenomenon could have a double-edged sword impact on our lives’.

It would seem that individuals who use technology to enable them to continue working beyond office hours or to receive social media notifications 24/7 tend to be highly successful in their jobs but are at risk of the effects of technology overload. Continue reading

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Making New Year Resolutions Stick

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4 Easy Ways to Deal with Stress

Well, we are already nearly two weeks into the year and I wonder how your new year resolutions are going.  Well, it is great to make these resolutions and we do that really well.  However, ensuring they become a part of our everyday lives is just a little more difficult.

So, today I thought I would tackle one of the most difficult ones to keep – eating healthily.  You can give yourself all the excuses in the world for eating badly – you are busy, you haven’t had time to eat properly, you have had a really challenging day either in the office or with the children.  We human beings are great at making excuses for not doing something and we can also be really creative with these reasons as well!

However, the one thing for sure that 2014 will bring most of us is that little word, ‘stress’, so let us look at way of how you can reduce it naturally. Continue reading

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